Paolo has a Relapse – Family Effect – Surrogate Tapping
May 14th, 2010
Paolo’s Relapse and Sadness
One of the difficult things for me is when a child has a relapse, especially one of my favorites. Paolo is one of my favorites. He is usually charming, bright, outspoken, dynamic and amazing. To see him so sad, so low is difficult.
Till watched me work with Paolo and was quite moved by the shift in Paolo from sad to at peace. In this photo even I can see how much I adore him and want to see him well. I do what I do without thinking about it so seeing this photo helped me see how others see me.
Paolo and Deborah
I tapped with Paolo to help him rid his sadness, his desire to go home, how he missed his little brother, to not be in the hospital. In minutes he was calmer. That was the beginning.
In the following days he was again sad. Again we tapped to release the sadness, but I could see that he didn’t want to release it. It was a matter of finding out why. I didn’t have to look far to find out.
His mother was with him. I could see she was sad too. I tapped with her about her sadness, the sadness that Paolo is back in the hospital and how that affects her. In addition, she has a 6 month old that she isn’t allowed to bring into the hospital. That creates a terrible conflict of how to love both children and take care of them both.
She was sad, overwhelmed and felt she couldn’t ask for support, even though she desperately needed it. We tapped to remove that sadness in of her mind. Interesting thing is that the last time I tapped with Paolo he had a headache, coincidence? We continued to tap to remove this sadness and to feel it was all right to ask for help. Not necessarily directly ask for help but that the help needed comes. I stated that I was here to help Paolo and her release the emotional stress they were feeling as a simple proof that what you need shows up. She smiled. By the time we finished tapping you could literally see her more relaxed and so was Paolo.
The next time I tapped with Paolo he wasn’t so sad. I asked if it helps when your mom doesn’t feel so sad. He said yes.
Family Effect
Here is an example of the family connection involved in helping children with cancer. The emotions of their families affect them just as their emotions affect their families. Also my emotions as a volunteer and EFT practitioner have an affect on the children.
The bottom line is the emotions we feel can affect others positively or negatively. The benefit of being conscious of this is that one can choose to feel good knowing it can have a beneficial effect on those around us. Pay attention to your emotions and how they are affecting those around you.
My desire is that we all choose happier emotions so that we feel at peace and capable of loving so that we create a beneficial effect.
Surrogate Tapping
I would like to propose that those of you who like to surrogate tap, tap for Paolo. Paolo and I would greatly appreciate any tapping you could do for him to release his sadness about being ill again. He is totally in agreed with me asking those inspired to do so. We thank you in advance.
