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"A beautiful and inspiring collection, Wedding Blessings is the perfect gift for soon-to-be married couples and newlyweds. They'll treasure it for years to come." --Rona Cherry, Love Magazine
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"Start your weddings plans with this 176-page guide to Wedding Blessings by June Cotner . . . you can find just the right words for your ceremony and make it memorable . . . This hardback is sure to delight even the pickiest bride, groom, and/or in-laws." --Linda Hutton, Hutton Book Review Services
From the Author
I created WEDDING BLESSINGS to honor and celebrate one of the happiest of passages for a family. The purpose of this book is to help couples customize their weddings and anniversary celebrations by offering a diverse selection of readings and vows. Clergy members, friends, and relatives of the bride and groom can also find selections to read or recite at a wedding. Some people have told me they want original pieces. Others want traditional favorites by writers such as Elizabeth Barrett Browning, Robert Browning, Kahlil Gibran, Rainer Maria Rilke, Rumi, and Shakespeare.
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tiful collection of poems, prayers, and toasts for all marriage celebrations.
Finding the right words about love for a wedding or anniversary can be difficult. In Wedding Blessings, June Cotner has collected perfect selections for the bride, groom, members of the wedding party, and other family and friends to share. From verses and vows to prayers and toasts, the sentiments of Wedding Blessings will help make any marriage celebration more memorable. With selections devoted to "anniversaries" and "Reflections", Wedding Blessings also serves as a tribute to and affirmation of marriage.
Filled with inspiration and timeless words by renowned authors such as Robert Browning, Rainer Maria Rilke, the Persian poet Rumi, as well as many contemporary writers, this spiritual, multi-faith anthology offers true gems suitable for all aspects of weddings, anniversaries, and vow-renewal ceremonies. Wedding Blessings
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"A beautiful collection of poems, prayers, and toasts for all marriage celebrations.
Finding the right words about love for a wedding or anniversary can be difficult. In "Wedding Blessings, June Cotner has collected perfect selections for the bride, groom, members of the wedding party, and other family and friends to share. From verses and vows to prayers and toasts, the sentiments of "Wedding Blessings will help make any marriage celebration more memorable. With selections devoted to "anniversaries" and "Reflections," "Wedding Blessings also serves as a tribute to and affirmation of marriage.
Filled with inspiration and timeless words by renowned authors such as Robert Browning, Rainer Maria Rilke, the Persian poet Rumi, as well as many contemporary writers, this spiritual, multi-faith anthology offers true gems suitable for all aspects of weddings, anniversaries, and vow-renewal ceremonies. "Wedding Blessings is a wonderful gift for the bride-to-be and others celebrating the union of marriage.
About the Author
JUNE COTNER is the author of more than a dozen anthologies, including the bestselling Graces. She lives in Poulsbo, Washington.
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What Greater Thing
What greater thing is there for two human souls,
than to feel that they are joined for life--
to strengthen each other in all labor,
to rest on each other in all sorrow,
to minister to each other in all pain,
to be one with each other
in silent unspeakable memories . . .
-George Eliot (1819-1880)
You Were Born Together
(from The Prophet)
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each of you be alone,
Even as the strings of the lute are alone though they quiver
with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hands of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.
-Kahlil Gibran (1883-1931)
When Two People Are at One
When two people are at one
in their inmost hearts
They shatter even the strength of iron
or of bronze
And when two people understand each other
in their inmost hearts
Their words are sweet and strong
like the fragrance of orchids.
I Ching
Married Love
You and I
Have so much love
That it
Burns like a fire,
In which we bake a lump of clay
Molded into a figure of you
And a figure of me.
Then we take both of them,
And break them into pieces,
And mix the pieces with water,
And mold again a figure of you,
And a figure of me.
I am in your clay.
You are in my clay.
In life we share a single quilt.
In death we will share one bed.
-Kuan Tao-Sheng (1262-1319)
Translated from the Chinese by Kenneth Rexroth and Ling Chung
To Love Another
For one human being to love another human being: that is perhaps the most difficult task that has been entrusted to us, the ultimate task, the final test and proof, the work for which all other work is merely preparation . . . Loving does not at first mean merging, surrendering, and uniting with another person--it is a high inducement for the individual to ripen . . . to become world in himself for the sake of another person; it is a great, demanding claim on him, something that chooses him and calls him to vast distances.
-Rainer Maria Rilke (1875-1926)
Translated by Stephen Mitchell
The Passionate Shepherd to His Love
Come live with me and be my love,
And we will all the pleasures prove
That valleys, groves, hills, and fields,
Woods, or steepy mountain yields.
And we will sit upon the rocks
Seeing the shepherds feed their flocks,
By shallow rivers, to whose falls
Melodious birds sing madrigals.
And I will make thee beds of roses
And a thousand fragrant posies,
A cap of flowers and a kirtle
Embroider'd all with leaves of myrtle.
A gown made of the finest wool,
Which from our pretty lambs we pull;
Fair lined slippers for the cold,
With buckles of the purest gold.
A belt of straw and ivy buds,
With coral clasps and amber studs:
And if these pleasures may thee move,
Come live with me and be my love.
The shepherd swains shall dance and sing
For thy delight each May morning:
If these delights thy mind may move,
Then live with me and be my love.
-Christopher Marlowe (1564-1594)
In One Another's Souls
The moment I heard my first love story I began seeking you,
not realizing the search was useless.
Lovers don't meet somewhere along the way.
They're in one another's souls from the beginning.
-Rumi (1207-1273)
Adapted by Eleanor Munro, from the translation by A. J. Arberry
I Shall Love You
Sensual pleasure passes and vanishes in the twinkling of an eye, but the friendship between us, the mutual confidence, the delights of the heart, the enchantment of the soul, these things do not perish and can never be destroyed. I shall love you until I die.
-Voltaire (1694-1778)
Love
I love you,
Not only for what you are,
But for what I am
When I am with you.
I love you,
Not only for what
You have made of yourself,
But for what
You are making of me.
I love you
For the part of me
That you bring out;
I love you
For putting your hand
Into my heaped-up heart
And passing over
All the foolish, weak things
That you can't help
Dimly seeing there,
And for drawing out
Into the light
All the beautiful belongings
That no one else had looked
Quite far enough to find.
I love you because you
Are helping me to make
Of the lumber of my life
Not a tavern
But a temple;
Out of the works
Of my every day
Not a reproach
But a song.
I love you
Because you have done
More than any creed
Could have done
To make me good,
And more than any fate
Could have done
To make me happy.
You have done it
Without a touch,
Without a word,
Without a sign.
You have done it
By being yourself.
Perhaps that is what
Being a friend means,
After all.
-Roy Croft (1907-1973)
Entering the Vow
What is a vow,
but an intention
spoken out before the world
so that the world, in hearing,
might take part
in aspirations
of the willing heart?
In our coming here today
to join and bless
the joy of your becoming wed,
may we enter in
the truth of the words you've said,
"I do."
-Maureen Tolman Flannery
Love Is Patient
Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast,
it is not proud. It is not rude,
it is not self-seeking,
it is not easily angered,
it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil
but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts,
always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. . . .
And now these three remain:
faith, hope and love.
But the greatest of these is love.
-I Corinthians 13:4-8, 13 (NIV)
My Bounty (from Romeo and Juliet)
My bounty is as boundless as the sea,
My love as deep; the more I give to thee,
The more I have, for both are infinite.
-William Shakespeare (1564-1616)
